Most of us at some point in time have been around someone we just can’t stand. Recently at work, our boss was fired and a new young guy was hired to replace him. Nice enough guy. But completely unlikeable. All he does all day is tickle his own pickle. You might ask what that even means and I don’t really know. But anyways he’s a micromanager that loves to talk about how great everything he does is. Hopefully he’ll watch this video and learn a thing or two. And hopefully he won’t know it’s me.

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Some might think that the best way to get people to like you is to become as attractive, interesting, wealthy, and popular as possible. And while there might be some truth to that, likeability is more about how you interact with those around you. Some of the people I like the most in life aren’t rich, aren’t attractive, don’t live particularly interesting lives, and aren’t popular. Instead they take interest in me and my life.

So the first thing you can do to get others to like you is to simply take an authentic interest in people. Learn their names and use them. Science has proven that people love to hear the sound of their own names. Ask them about their interests and encourage them to talk about them with you. Don’t over think it. If they express an interest in photography simple ask them their story about how they got into it or what they plan to do with it. The art here is to make the other person feel like you are sincerely interested in what they have to say. This will make the other person feel important. But you also don’t want to overdo it and come off as a weirdo who wants to know every little detail about the other person’s life. Most people like to have some degree of privacy about their personal life and would rather you not pry. When you start taking too much of an interest, this plan might backfire and actually make you less liked than if you took no interest at all. So be careful out there and don’t be a creep.

Next. Simply be presentable. Smile and use friendly body language. Dress well and keep yourself groomed. No one likes a smelly person or a person with dirty fingernails, unkept hair, and bad breath. Do yourself a favor and shower daily, brush your teeth and floss. Unless of course you are in a famous hipster band – then do whatever the f*ck you want, because people hate you anyways.
Finally be humble. You’d think this goes without saying, but there are a lot of egotistical a**holes out there that don’t understand their lack of humility is a huge part of what makes this world a terrible place. It’s ok to try your best to be right all the time, but you also have to know when you’re wrong. You have to respect the opinions of others even if you disagree with them, if you want others to respect yours. There’s an old poem by Chief Tecumseh of the Shawnee Indian tribe that says this best:

"So live your life that the fear of death can never enter your heart. Trouble no one about their religion; respect others in their view, and demand that they respect yours. Love your life, perfect your life, beautify all things in your life. Seek to make your life long and Its purpose in the service of your people.”

Also don’t call people guy or buddy or chief. It’s annoying. Use their f*cking names. So what does this all boil down to? Simple. Don’t be born on the Jersey Shore.