In all my years of interviewing, these two women made the most sense when it comes to dealing with our children. This is only a segment but I encourage you to explore the work of Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish, whose best-selling books include How to Talk so Kids Will Listen & Listen so Kids will Talk and Siblings Without Rivalry. They have developed "do-it-yourself" group workshop programs which have won the enthusiastic praise of parents and professionals worldwide. The author's practical, down-to-earth methods give adults the know-how they need to create relationships with children of all ages -- from tots to teens -- that are less stressful and far more rewarding. If you read the book, you will learn how to:

-Engage your child's willing cooperation
-Deal with your child's negative feelings - frustration, disappointment, anger
-Express your anger without being hurtful
-Set firm limits and still maintain goodwill
-Use alternatives to punishment that promote self-discipline
-Encourage positive relationships between your children
-Resolve family conflicts peacefully.