The series continues! 🌙 In this video, I offer a nuanced take on the common advice to "lower expectations" to avoid disappointment. I explain why suppressing our genuine hopes and desires can actually backfire keeping us stuck and unfulfilled.

Rather than buffering against pain through denial and gaslighting ourselves that we expect less, I share an alternative focused on building resilience in the face of letdowns.

Grounded in research on concepts like the Pygmalion effect and dispositional optimism, I describe how transparency with ourselves cultivates motivation, performance, authenticity and self-trust over the long run. As well as introduce Resourceful Resilience - the topic of video #3.

This series is tailored to those who struggle with chronic disappointment and are seeking sustainable ways to process emotional pain when expectations don't pan out.

Watch the first video here:
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0:00 - Intro
0:57 - Series Recap
4:40 - Why it Doesn't Work
8:44 - Research & Examples
12:55 - The Allure of False Neutrality
15:59 - True Purpose of Expectations
18:00 - The Verdict

Key Topics:
Managing expectations vs lowering expectations
The downsides of suppressing hopes and desires
Self-gaslighting and inauthentic positivity
The Pygmalion Effect and self-fulfilling prophecies
Building resilience and bouncing back from disappointments
Toxic positivity and denial vs self-compassion
Regulating your nervous system after setbacks
Developing resourceful resilience and neutral responses
Overcoming chronic frustration and repeated letdowns