In today's video I explain how a scapegoat survivor can profitably defy their narcissistic parent's rules. This is the third pillar of recovery in action. The strategy involves approving yourself to pursue what makes you feel happy, strong, and/or free. The critical ingredient in this pillar is seeing what happens now. Do the people around you recoil or attack? If you have safe people in your life today then the answer is likely to be no. Instead they remain connected to you even when you like who you are. Experiencing this outcome helps the scapegoat survivor separate feeling good from losing needed connection. And watch until the end because I will point you towards a resource to help scapegoat survivors safely live in ways that defy their narcissistic parent's rules.

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