Published On Mar 30, 2020
The toxic world of self help: a world surrounded by toxic positivity, self help addiction, fake gurus, and hustle culture.
Itโs the side of โself-developmentโ that is often overlooked by those on the outside, and even those who are avid consumers of the industry.
In this video we take a dive into the dark side of self-help, and the traps that may lie in wait for those who enter this world.
******
๐ ๐๐ฎ๐ฉ๐ฉ๐จ๐ซ๐ญ ๐๐ก๐ ๐๐ก๐๐ง๐ง๐๐ฅ // ๐๐๐๐จ๐ฆ๐ ๐ ๐๐๐ญ๐ซ๐จ๐ง!
โบ https://www.patreon.com/jamesvj
๐ป๐๐ก๐๐ซ๐ ๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐ง ๐ฅ๐๐๐ซ๐ง๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ก๐จ๐ฐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐๐๐ข๐ญ + ๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ซ ๐๐ฅ๐๐ฌ๐ฌ๐๐ฌ (๐๐ค๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฌ๐ก๐๐ซ๐)
โบ https://skillshare.eqcm.net/Kr3Yn
๐๐๐๐ญ ๐ ๐
๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ฐ๐ก๐๐ง ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐๐ฉ๐จ๐ฌ๐ข๐ญ $๐๐๐ (๐๐):
โบ https://act.webull.com/kol-us/share.html?hl=en&inviteCode=aUn469wnhfEA
๐น๐ ๐ ๐๐พ๐๐ถ๐ฝ๐บ๐ฒ๐ป๐: https://bit.ly/2OfHCTO
๐ ๐๐จ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐๐ง๐๐ฅ๐ฎ๐๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐๐ฅ ๐๐จ๐จ๐ค๐ฌ ๐ ๐๐๐ฏ๐ ๐๐๐๐: https://bit.ly/33pDvw7
๐ถ ๐๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ข๐ ๐๐ฌ๐๐:
Epidemic Sounds - https://bit.ly/2SblgUB
Artlist - https://bit.ly/2IzPbVo
๐ธ Instagram: james.v.j // https://bit.ly/2TOaBBC
๐ฆ Twitter: @jamesvjani // https://bit.ly/2zYPrsT
******
DISCLAIMER
This video is primarily based on my own experience in the self help industry, and therefore I want to make it clear that I am coming from a biased perspective throughout this video.
HOW IT BEGINS
Self development has a nice lure to it. Itโs this world of people trying to improve themselves, take control over their lives and decisions, and live a better โfulfillingโ life. Or at least, it is presented to you this way.
Most people come to the self-help world from a dark place, looking for some sort of โhopeโ or โway outโ โ and I was no exception to this. It was this desire to change my life situation that brought me to the world of self-help.
SELF HELP ADDICTION
Addiction to self help content is the first trap to often ensnare people. When you consume self help content you will often gain a surge in motivation. This motivation will urge you to purchase the next self help book, watch the next self help video, attend the next self help seminar from your favourite guru, etc etc.
But this is problematic. This feeling of motivation and fulfilment is an illusion โ an illusion of progress. Because in reality you havenโt made any progress, you have only gotten better at convincing yourself that you have.
THE BUSINESS OF SELF HELP
The industry of self-development is estimated to be worth around $13 billion dollars by 2022. The selling of books, online programs, seminars, coaching, podcasts, live speaking events, are some of the main mediums used to generate income from self-development.
But this business knows how addicting this content can be. And your favourite gurus like Tony Robbins, Gary Vaynerchuk, Grant Cardone, Tai Lopez know (even if they wonโt admit it) that you are more profitable to them unhappy and discontent than you are happy and fulfilled.
TOXIC POSITIVITY
The self help world can surround you with positive messages. Overwhelming you with ideas like โpositive vibrationsโ in order to get you feeling good the more you consume. But nobody can feel good forever, life will always have ups and downs.
Self-help can often make yo feel as though negative thoughts like quitting are wrong. And this brings us to the next problem: toxic positivity. Toxic positivity is about making you feel bad for not feeling great all the time, and the self help industry can absolutely put you in a position to feel like this.
HUSTLE CULTURE
Finally, we come to hustle culture. In this new world of Instagram entrepreneurs, humble bragging, and fake gurus, this concept of โhustlingโ and working hard every hour of the day has become romanticised.
There are a few issues with this. Often times those that brag about โhustlingโ are actually procrastinating and achieving nothing. Then there are those who actually work every hour of the day, thinking that this is what encapsulated what it means to be successful โ it doesnโt. Working hard at the RIGHT thing, is what makes the odds of success higher. And the best way to know if you are working hard at the right thing is to take a step back from your โhustlingโ and reflect on the strategy you are using.
******
All materials in these videos are used for educational purposes and fall within the guidelines of fair use. No copyright infringement is intended. If you are or represent the copyright owner of materials used in this video and have a problem with the use of said material, please contact me via my email in the "about" page on my channel.
AFFILIATE DISCLOSURE: there may be a few links in this description that, at no cost to you, will earn me a commission if you choose to click them and make a purchase ๐
Donโt worry โ I only ever promote things that have genuinely helped me.
Copyright ยฉ James Jani 2020
Prologue - 00:00
Part 1: Where it Begins - 02:13
Part 2: Addiction - 04:26
Part 3: The Sinister Business of Selling Hope - 07:39
Part 4: Toxic Positivity - 10:41
Part 5: Hustle Culture - 13:30
Conclusion - 16:36